I've learned a lot from observing the husband... having consoled myself with the thought that he's older and therefore wiser, I've started doing some things differently.
Professionally: Defining clear goals. Negotiating hard for what I want. Telling people who try to walk all over me that they can stuff it. Prioritizing and working smarter. Taking breaks. Taking risks. Waiting (slightly) more patiently for the right opportunities to come my way. Starting to believe in my own worth.
Personally: Outsourcing what I dislike doing. Not feeling as guilty about eating out, or having someone clean the house, or whatever else is just more convenient some times. Spending more time talking to the people who matter. Not wasting time with the ones who don't, particularly with social courtesies such as birthday greetings to people whom I dislike (my logic used to be: well, Facebook says it's their birthday, and they don't know that I don't like them. Now I say: they're never going to notice if I don't, and at least it won't make me wince when I know I don't mean it).
You're calling them Arun-isms? :)
ReplyDeleteI still struggle with believing in my own worth and negotiating, how'd you get over that?